please help me

isitlive

Love!!! You will over it . just like he did with his exwife. Age is not that important but gambles IS . Get out now , don't gamble your life on a gambler person.

kktruong

Tinh cam ba nguoi thi chi co mot chu " tai hai " Gia dinh ban can ngan la dung roi .....

yu193a

Be careful. don't do thing that you will regret. Your parent always want you have a good marriage and a happy life. And whatever they tell you not just come from nowhere, but from their experiences in what they had been through in life.
I know, the parent is not always right all the time, but you don't want to ignore it because you could pay for the price that you could not afford later. Don't cross over, it is hard, but there is nothing to rush and time will prove who right or wrong. Give your self a slap to wake up and think more careful.

huvo

If he was a gambler before he will be a gambler later , he just quit for awhile so he can have you and after all you will be his bank

thantho

Listen and follow

quoclien

post a pic of urself, u might find someone better on thêse forums....

hey ur 20...ur an adult, i think ur old enough to make your own decisions, choose family or soulmate....

alita

Thanks for replying to this thread.In a way I do feel insecure about everything. Telling me to choose family and soulmate, there was a time when I chose him he then took me home to talk to my parents and my parents got really angry. From that day onwards, I felt like a prisoner. I wasn't allowed out and when I went to uni my dad followed me everyday. They were going to send me to Vietnam too. I may be 20 but from my parent's persepctive I'll always be a little girl and they just want to protect me. But in protecting me how can I learn from life?I also met my ex-boyfriends family, his mum loves me, she told me that she knows he had a bad past but now his changed. She even wants me to marry him and move in with her.

MAXIMO8408

Listen to your parents.

thien_co

You'll always be a little girl for your parent, whatever how old you are. In vietnamese we say: "little child -> little trouble; big kid -> big worry"

I try to translate a short story for you:

a father tells to son:
- when you are under 20, you can belive that you're right in all the things you do.
- You should think about, what I say, if you're between 20-30 and you'll accept, that Im always right, when you're over 30.


So I think it's hard for you to accept it at the moment but it's a part of "growing-up" and be happy to have someone, who takes care of you :-)

Natasha97

you parents tell you that's right, listen to them

mtsmith

You already said the answer for yourself. in describing him you gave us reasons to asset you to leave him. justifying your leave. it's best to do as you wish

lovelybear

I like gambling. Just follow your heart, he gambles it just doesn't mean that he's a bad person. Gamble people tend to have a intuitive feeling, because they take risk, they've been there and knowing the consequences of the outcomes, and they're not goin to share that consequences with you because he might loves you.

dukeofhmong

They say love is blind and you don't see the truth until you're married. when you first meet and go out, all he does is beautiful and you can dismiss his wrongs easily. But when you are married and notice that there is no money to spend, and wonder where the next dollar bill will come from to pay for your baby's diapers and formula... that's when it's too late.

I've had too many friends get married due to blind love and they are all devorced right now. All their husbands drink and gamble... It's kinda sad to see that all my girlfriends are just sex objects for their husbands and are used all the time... It's hard to find a good guy in this world, there's many fish in the sea, keep your spirts high and eyes open for a better man.

Sorry to side with your parents, I'm a parent myself so I know...

i006603

Life is about living....but before living...you have to have foundation and guidance....at the moment, you're still young...love is a passing time..a story line in life that we all must go through and experiences....until you experiences you will nver know...."Love" is a beautiful thing but it is a very trouble world when you're in it...because...'Love' is blind.
At the moment, you are still young and need to study and graduate from a college before you could say trully and understand the word and meaning of "Love". To you, it is a game at the moment...something that makes you feel good and wanted...but believe me....you do not want to fall into something that you don't have control over...and that is gambling man...it is a part of him that you nor anyone could change...
My advice to you...finish school first...college..have a carreer, along the way, you will find your soul mate....even when you're 30 yrs old...it will not be too late...it is better late then .....! one mistake and will cost you all your life to repay from it...! and will affect not only you but your children and grand children...it is a chain reaction that can not be broken once broke.

tt_stac

You're still young and have a long way to go......take your time and don't rush into things that you'll probably regret later......Good luck!

arvis21

Hi, if your still reading this post. Please think with your heart and mind, and think of the pros and cons. Did you know why him and his ex-wife broke up? will the same happen to you? and it's very hard to stop gambling. He probly can cut down, it's very hard to stop.
best wishes to you. it's up to you to decide. it's hard to say good or bad right now.

kfc_chicken

forget about him..... anyways i still single here !

Unique1ofaKind

Parents knows best.

As they are not emotionally involved they think with their head. And as you are only 20, there are plenty of fish in the ocean.

HoMinh1

Chán wá , sao hông ghi bằng tiếng Pháp để đệ góp y'

sunnysky

Listen to your parents, they are right. Don't trust a gambler, he will ruin your life. Get out now and look for a better one or you will regret later. I personally know some gamblers and all of them are losers.

quoclien

you got a picture of urself?

Raijin006

Wow ur bf sounds just like me b4. yeap i agree listen to ur parents..i ruined my ex wife life wif those bad habits..even though ive change now but only after a really harsh lesson that i realise how wrong i was.

hiinhoc

find urself a new bf haahha